Porn Practical
by Eta Dixon
My blue pleather pants are one of my favorite possessions. I love wearing them to the
Court, to class, to sit around in. When my Mom first saw me in these pants she raised her
eyebrows and asked me "How can you wear something like that and also claim that you
don’t want to be objectified?" Her question highlights a dilemma faced by many women:
how do we sexually express and empower ourselves within the social framework of
objectification and inequality? While time we are taught to be innocent and passive, we
are at the same time taught to gain love and self-esteem through the objectification of our
bodies. Too often the only spaces we find and/or create for our sexuality within these
double binds are poorly lit, cramped, and a long-ass hike from the places we normally
inhabit.
Those who try to reclaim and reshape these spaces by openly expressing and
enjoying their sexuality as an integrated part of their personality often face a negative
response. This response is sometimes a backlash to empowerment, sometimes confusion
on the part of the responder, and often a mixture of the two. This confusion is easily
understood, as, alas, there is no qualitative benchmark to distinguish between actions of
objectification and those of healthy sexual expression. Instead, the difference lies in the
nature of the actor’s sexuality, which for many of us is somewhere on a continuum
between objectification and expression.
Men as well face the difficulties of sexually empowering themselves within the
social structure of inequality. One difficulty is the pressure to fulfill the role of the
sexually knowledgeable and experienced partner. Men often turn to pornography, both in
the search for knowledge to fulfill this role and in some cases to escape this role. Indeed,
pornography is one of the main spaces society gives men to explore their sexuality.
Herein lies another difficulty in the sexual empowerment of men: the need to overcome
the inequality embodied in pornography, to whatever extent such inequality is
internalized.
The word pornography is derived from the Greek roots porne (harlot, prostitute,
female captive) and graphos (writing about or description of) (Steinem). Indeed, the
basic framework of pornography--the male consumer as the sexual actor and the female
model as the passive sexual object--legitimizes and perpetuates sexual inequality ( I am
assuming the typical gender roles in heterosexual pornography). Men who frequently
use pornography internalize the ideology of inequality to various extents. This variation
exists because the dynamics of the space are influenced by the nature of the occupant.
For some men, their sexual relations are an extension of this space, as they approach
sexual relations from a conquest and/or violent-domination type mindframe. However,
for many men the space of pornography is merely visited, as their sexuality has a
grounding in a more egalitarian based ideology and/or experience. Even in these cases,
the visitation of this space is likely to have an influence on the visitor, however subtle the
influence may be. In the words of Marsha Dolesky, "You do not live in the belly of the
beast without at least getting a bad case of b.o."
In order to explore the dynamics of the space of pornography, I spent a couple of
hours looking at porn on the web. In addition to the basic softcore Playboy-type porn and
basic hardcore Hustler-type porn, which sexualizes dominance, many sites sexualize
overtly violent forms of dominance. For example, many showed penetration with a wide
array of objects, "golden shower" sites show one person urinating on another, and many
sites claiming to be torture chambers showed bondage. In all sites, models typically were
smiling seductively or displaying some other variation of what Gail Dines calls the "fuck
me look." These looks of desire and enjoyment encode two dangerous messages. With
regards to basic porn, the message is that women enjoy being objectified. With regards to
the violent sites, the message is that women enjoy being dominated.
I imagine it would be very easy for a male to assume that the lustful looks
indicate the enjoyment of the model and her conscious choice to participate. Perhaps
modeling could even be assumed to be a sexually empowering choice for the model.
However, these assumptions negate the socioeconomic context of such a "choice."
Behind these lustful looks lie many tales of economic desperation and sexual abuse.
There exists the power structure and dirty politics of the pornography industry, in which
models are lured into a cycle of participation and paid salaries incomparable to that of
Jenna Jameson (a multi-million dollar porn star). There exists the frequency of amateur
videos and shots being made without consent and/or in the context of an abusive
relationship (Russo).
Thus, I find the possibility of erotic subversion to be unlikely within the context
of the pornography industry. However, the print and video mediums associated with
pornography can be a space in which we create images based on sexual equality, images
which affirm our sexual identities and offer us opportunity for sexual empowerment.
Can you imagine the looks we would get from the ATC if we formed An Erotica for
Sexual Equality Club?
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